I’ve been dealing with anxiety in some extent for over 7 years now. It comes in waves of severity and lasts for months on end. Then there are other times when I feel really great. I just recently got married about a month ago and I can say that the experience of planning and being the center of a big wedding sent me into a wave of anxiety like I have never experienced since I first felt it 7 years ago. About 2 months before the wedding the anxiety began to get out of control and continued to escalate. My problem is, now that the wedding is over, I’m still feeling anxious and now I fear I’m exhibiting signs of depression. I cry for no reason. I’m tired all the time and I have little motivation. I think the route of this was all the stress involving my wedding, as well as a new job I obtained a month before the wedding, traveling for our honeymoon and on top of it all the holidays. My father has started showing concern, which only makes me feel more anxious, like I’m under a microscope. I find it difficult to be around my extended family.
My new husband is wonderful and supportive and he is definitely my refuge. My daughter as always can make me smile too! I am so in love with both of them! But I feel like a failure as a wife and mom because I’m not giving them all I can. How can my heart be so happy with my life but my head is making me feel so awful? I know how incredibly lucky I am to have such a wonderful husband and daughter, but I just can’t shake the worry and sadness. what can I do to fix this now? I’m sure I need medication, but I just started a new job and haven’t obtained insurance yet. Help!
at this point – without medication, probably nothing else you can do – you should have talked to your doctor YEARS ago
doesn’t your husband have insurance for eth whole family thru his job?
pray to god about it
You’re probably not feeling fulfilled.:/Think what would make you happy and then try to rebuild your life! I hope i’ve helped!!
If you are not already, see a professional Psychologist. They will treat and help you through anything. Yahoo answers WILL NOT help this, I promise you. There is always hope, it will all be okay. You sound like a great mother. Like I said see a Psychologist in your area. If you need to also call this 24/7 hot line ( 800-448-3000). There are councilors. Do not wait to get a Psychologist. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to treat and overcome your depression and anxiety. Do not feel bad! There are millions of others that share in your same problems. It will all be okay! Take care.
I started feeling the same way about 6 months ago. (ie crying for no reason and no motivation)…
Since you cant get medication, seeing a therapist regularly would be the best thing for you that way you have someone to talk to
I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a hard time with your anxiety and depression symptoms right now. It’s not uncommon for anxiety and depression to be “comorbid”, meaning that they occur together in the same person at the same time as two distinct illnesses. Being anxious is a depressing experience, and being depressed lends itself to anxiety, so it is a self-perpetuating cycle. It’s so easy to get caught in the downward spiral and feel like you can’t get out.
It’s hard for you to DO anything about it right now because you don’t have insurance yet through your job. I think that is the #1 thing you need to focus on right now. Does your husband have insurance through his line of work, and will it cover you? Look into that as well for a quicker response than buying your own insurance through work and waiting for the coverage to kick in.
Once you are covered through an insurance provider, look into therapy. I would strongly encourage you to try therapy before medication. You can do both together, which is often very effective, but if you can avoid using medication all together it’s usually better for you. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with using medication, I use it from time to time to combat my symptoms, but only once you’ve exhausted therapy as a viable treatment option. I was in therapy for months unmedicated before even my therapist finally said to me, “You should really look into mood stabilizers, therapy alone is not helping you enough.” Medication should be treated with caution because it can have negative side effects, and we don’t know the long-term consequences of these drugs. Some people stay on them for years at a time as prophylaxis when they don’t actually need it.
Therapy is often the only thing a person needs to get past their anxiety and depression, even if it seems to have a very “biological” basis. All mental illness is both biological and environmental, as you’ve seen in your own life. You have a proneness to anxiety, and when you get stressed out by your environment, that makes it worse. In therapy you will learn how to retrain your thoughts and behaviors so that instead of adding to the anxiety, they subtract from it, fighting against that natural tendency you have to become anxious. Look specifically for a therapist who is experienced with “cognitive behavioral therapy.” Look it up on Google and read about it, it’s an empirically-supported form of therapy that is highly effective. Often it only takes 12-16 sessions of CBT for a person to no longer need support for their symptoms.
You might also try browsing the web for natural ways to combat anxiety and depression such as exercise (30 mins of robust exercise a day can help greatly reduce anxiety and mood symptoms), dietary changes (take a multivitamin to make sure you get enough vitamin D, essential for the synthesis of serotonin in the brain), meditation, yoga, journaling, etc. that can all help. There are also natural supplements you can take like Kava, Valerian root, St. John’s Wort, etc. that can help with anxiety and depression symptoms, but be sure to check with a doctor before you start taking any of these. Roots and herbs are just like medication from a doctor in that they can interact with other things and cause side effects, so be careful with them.
Good luck!