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By admin on January 2, 2012
I’m planning my own birthday party at a restaurant and inviting about 15 people. I am prepared to cover meals. However, alcohol may put me outside of my budget. I may have one glass of wine, but some of my friends drink a lot more than me. Is it okay to say on the invitation that meals are “on the house” but alcohol is not?
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Perfectly fine. Just mention in some fancy way that “there is no open bar”.
yes
Yes, you just need to state that it is “cash bar” rather than “open bar”
Thats fine- besides it damages you brain cells so why have it?
yes it’s ok to put it. besides you are paying for the food they can pay for their own alcohol.
I would say something along the lines “Dinner and non-alcoholic beverages included”
Absolutely.
You just say Dinner is covered, but alcoholic beverages are your responsiblity. It’s neither rude nor wrong to put.
Happy Birthday btw.
Yeah. People will not assume it’s an open bar if you don’t put it on the invite.
Hell, make them pay for their own damn meals too.
i wouldnt say meals are on the house… just put a line that says *drinks range from 8-10 each (depending on the cost) or say “cash bar”
Usually when people mention the cost of something its because thats not going to be paid for by the host
put BYOB….on invite…buy your own booze
and its drink more the I…not me…[language police] drink more than i do,,,not drink more the me do.,,, that is how you know which way to say it
I think you will need to let them know and also tell the restaurant that any drinks anyone orders will go on a separate check. If you don’t have a separate check then it will be chaos trying to figure it out in the end. You might also check the restaurant’s corkage policy. If they don’t charge for corkage or if the price is small then it might be best for folks to just bring their own wine and pay the corkage fee.
Yes that is fine. Just be creative in the way that you word it so that you do not seem rude or cheap.
Its okay to include it on the invitiation but its important to phrase it right.
Pay as you go Cash Bar
There will be a Cash bar
Or just joke around about it and say come enjoy dinner on us minus drinks for the lushes or something
sure why not.. its your birthday so you can do whatever you likeee
on the invite put “dinner on me, but alcohol isnt free”
it rhymes
orrrr
“ill buy the food — you buy the alch”
It it were me, I would put that on the invitation, most definitley. Maybe say some like this – this is what I would write (and since I personally dislike people spending extra money on appetizers and desserts, too): “Your meals will be on the house, but anything extra, including alcohol and appetizers, will be up to you.” Something like that. I think you should say something.
You just put that there is a ‘cash bar’ at the end of your invitation so that they know that their liquor is not being paid for by you…And the meals are not ‘on the house’ – that would only be true if the restaurant was treating — so you need to put something in the invitation that says you would like them to join you in your birthday dinner…I think something like that would let them know that you are paying the tab for their food…
Not a problem, most parties planners do this to save costs. Have you ever been to a cash bar wedding? I know where you’re coming from, I have friends who drink 4 times as much as me – and I’m not into paying for that. If you can afford juice or pop write on the invitation:
Nonalcoholic refreshments will be provided.
It really is non-offensive. Besides, it is your birthday.
hope this helps.
Make sure you state that its a cash bar on the invitations. Then make sure the restaurant, its manager and your waitress know that all drinks outside of coffee, tea, water and soda which are standard are purchased away from the table and at a free standing bar, where tabs are not permitted.
If the restaurant tries to be difficult, just mention that you don’t want to be held responsible if someone brings an underage guest and they consume alcohol on their premises. They should be more accommodating and won’t realize that your more focused on controlling your bill total than anything else.
Something like “Drinks available for purchase” or “beverages available for purchase” should do the trick. Keep it simple.
Also, if you really want to make it clear that the meals will be paid for, your invitation can begin with something like “For my birthday, I’d love to treat you to dinner @ Restaurant __________” or “Please join me in celebrating my 25th(e.g.) birthday at Restaurant _________, dinner will be on me!”; followed by the “drinks available for purchase” line at the bottom.
Hope this helps, and happy birthday!
sure u can but you have to make it clear on the invitation so no one get confused
Oh yes, in fact I’d say you’re obligated to mention that alcohol will not be included!
I recently went to a Christmas party for my staff and no-one told me what was and wasn’t going to be included. That left me in a VERY awkward position as I was planning on drinking quite a few glasses of Stolichnaya and didn’t know what the limit was — what am I supposed to do in that scenario? Ask my boss from across the table, “how many drinks are you paying for? Or are you paying for drinks at all?”
That would likely not only have come off as rude and impolite, but awkward and pressuring. But how could one ask that question any other way? So I ended up just telling the waitress to put all my drinks on a seperate bill, to avoid having to ask a rude question. Turns out three drinks were to be paid for, but oh well.
Yes that is perfectly fine.
Yes. On the invitations indicate that the meals are on the birthday girl, but the bar is ‘cash’ only.
Yes, that is more than appropriate and fine in my opinion. I would simply say there is a cash bar at the restaurant and all are required to cover their own alcoholic beverages, meal will be provided.
Add “no host bar” to the invitation so guests will know that they will have to pay for drinks should they elect.