I am 24 yrs old and married to my husband who is 28 yrs old for 3 yrs.I have a daughter from a prior relationship who is 4 yrs old.My husband works in insurance company and travels a lot which has been putting a strain on our relationship because he cheated though he claims it was only ever oral/anal thus for him not cheating.I work am a history teacher for most of the year and help out at a summer camp for horseback riding during the summer.For a very long time i have felt my husband and i have been living seperate lives basically only living together as roommates.Our problems started toward the end of our first year of marriage when my husband wanted to try for a baby and i could not seem to get pregnant.He got moody started to blaim me for every little thing that was wrong and i got depressed.Then my daughters real dad steped into the picture whole other story not pretty.My husband has been in London for the last 3 months working.I cheated on once recently him is it time for divorce
I feel very confused and guilty i dont think i love my husband anymore?
Go to a doctor. Ask for STD tests. Pack your things. Move. File for divorce. Stop dating jerky men until your daughter is grown.
I don’t think either of you love each other. Divorce before your daughter gets put through more…
I love the oral/anal is not cheating… CLASSIC! ROTFLMAO!
If you and your husband are both cheating then obviously there are serious issues. You’re defeating the whole purpose of marriage…
you need to leave. if you both are cheating or wanting to cheat it is time to go.
Get him addicted to you. Do things a lil different when getting laid that s if you still love him … they say if you want a man dont go after his heart go after his croch try it
It sounds like you already have made your mind up that your marriage is over so why torture yourself any longer. Try marriage counseling first and maybe you two can find a way to get through all of this. If counseling is not an option, then you both need to sit down and discuss where your marriage is going. Good luck on this.
seems like u got married to him on the rebound. get divorced coz there is no luv bet the two of u and this enviornment is not gud for ur daughter. besides u cheated him more than he cheated u coz u did more than anal/oral
hes a jerk!
Divorce.
One of the bigget problems with a failed relationship, I believe, is the looming sense of failure regarding that relationship. The amount of time, energy, emotion invested in something that ultimately did not pan out the way that we planned, resulting in damaged self esteem, negative self image and poor self concept. Then, in general, people often need to feel validated… this is where the rebound comes in. There are so many emotions that come from a failed relationship… from guilt, to anger, hurt, pain… and we, at times, deal with one or two of these facets, but its rare that we can address all of them…. half of the time we don’t even know what we’re feeling.
Companionship is something that most healthy human beings want, we are a social and for the most part sociable people, and companionship comes in many forms. You should be careful not to fall into the trap of ending one relationship only to jump into another.
Anyway… maybe you and your hubby deserve a long overdue talk. Maybe you should bith write a letter telling one another how you feel about how your interpersonal relationship isn’t what you feel it should be. “Unmet expectations often lead to cause for offense.” If he doesn’t know what you expect, and if you don’t know what he expects how can either of you meet those expectations? In the end you have to find the answers for your dilemma in your own heart…. Hopefully you will find the answers that you need.
Yes, it is time for a divorce. How could you possibly stay married to a man that does not consider oral/anal activity with another woman to be cheating? STD’s can still be transmitted through this type of activity and can be brought back home to you. Neither of you seems interested in the marriage any longer, if you are both straying. So, why bother remaining with him any longer? Just make sure that you know a man really well before you introduce him into your daughters life in the future. You are still very young, you will find someone who will treat you with more respect.