I’m currently 16, and I go to a decent school, living what should be a normal life. I have many problems though. My mom works a by the hour job, and my dad has been unemployed for the past 7 years. Both have become kinda delusional, and have since eaten through all of their savings and have brainwashed themselves into believing it’s 1998 and a big fancy job has just been waiting to throw itself at them for all this time. I go to a prep school on an acting scholarship, and am the only person at my school who currently has a part-time job to help pay for personal expenses (Textbooks, toiletries, haircuts, driver’s ed/ insurance, travel expenses for school trips, food, etc…) I am at school for usually 11 hours (8-7) during the school year, and then I work from 8-11, and do homework from 11-12 or 1, getting about 6 hours of sleep. I try to talk to my friends about these problems, but they think I’m crazy, not understanding because they’ve never worked a job before. Please, someone help.
There’s no doubt I’m bipolar, I couldn’t fit why into my last post though. I am usually a pretty comical guy at my school (I do stand up around the Bay Area), but I can be in a great mood one day and come to school the next day and be around other acting people that have an arrogant flare about them, and then I just feel like crap. I changes moods frequently, and I exhibit a lot of the signs. I obviously can’t go to my parents for help, and my friends have all left me for a whiny kid that needs to just throw more money onto his problems, which makes me even MORE angry.
I’ve had violent impulses, but nothing I’d carry out on. I’m not aggressive in any way, but my parents have labeled me as having “anger issues” after lying to my therapist that I act out in violent manners at home (which I have NEVER done, I’m actually kinda weak lol). My dad frequently gets drunk and one time smashed my hand in a doorjam to “protect” himself. I reported it, but they lied to cover up, calling me “angry”
Counseling has never helped my parents, they’ve been through 4 therapists and none have yielded any results. It’s incredible how immature they can act sometimes; I often feel I’m talking to a younger person with the amount of loathe they treat me with.
Both my parents are engineers, and my brother (in college) is studying to be one. I’m a theater/ English major at my high school, so naturally I don’t fit in. My dad went on a whim and assumed I was either bi or gay, and told me he wouldn’t stand for a “Busboy fag who tries to make it in the Big City” as a son. My mom always agrees with him, in fear of being treated as lower.
I don’t have any close family I could go to, and I can’t run away from home. My friends think their parents not buying them a Lexus for their 16th birthday is constitution for suicide, so naturally they don’t listen to me.
You can talk to me Joe.
you don’t sound bipolar, lots of had to work their way through school; sounds like you are just tired and maby burned out, but at least you are practicing for adulthood/
I think you need to talk to a counselor. I think your parents are outside of your jurisdiction. You will be an adult in two years. So I would get some counseling and do my best to live as normal a life as possible until you can get the hell out!! Good Luck and God Bless!!
Wow thats sad and i thought i had a bad life!..I’m really sorry to hear this! Try talking your parents into getting a diffrent job (if you can find one) with a better pay.. the news classifies are good. And about the freind thin …I can be your freind! Email me at: ine_094@hotmail.com
if you have any problems at all you can come to me im an awesome listener, although im 12 i bet u dont wanna talk to a twelve year old but i mean i feel for you, its hard fitting in a school where there are rich people and you feel left out, your friends arnt your friends at all. just maybe you should go get medicine for your bipolar, although you seem like you are always roughing it and i praise you 100 percent.
Joe,
If you ever need a friend who has been in a situation like yourself please feel free to email me at lorimiller1986@yahoo.com. I am a little older then you but I think that I can help you because I have been in a situation like yourself. I think what you really need to do is talk with someone at your school about what you are going through. Or maybe you just need to vent your feelings to another person. I think that you really need a friend and I am willing to do that for you.
first off, do you have health insurance?
if yes, go to a doctor (without them) and tell him or her about the bipolar part. they can get you on something that can control the mood swings. after you get that taken care of, the only real problem is the money, correct? that’s a lot easier to take care of, but you need sleep too. try to work something out this summer. if you have any other questions, i’ll try to answer them. just e-mail me.
good luck!