I met a girl who lives about an hour away on this dating site. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date Friday and she said she might be interested. The problem is, I don’t have a car on campus. Furthermore, I’m a bit of an introvert who doesn’t really become super best buddies forever with people (not that I don’t have friends), so there are few stellar candidates for asking to borrow a car.
I’ve given this some thought, and I think I have some combination of these three options:
1) I could just ask one of my friends anyway, even though I don’t talk to them too often Again, we’re still friends — just not talk-every-day kind of friends. If I do this, it’s possible that they might feel used. Also, this is hardly a long-term solution if I plan to go on regular dates with this girl, unless I make some agreement about recompensation, etc. And what about the insurance?
2) I could just very politely explain the situation to the girl and ask her to come up here. I would offer to meet her in a public place so she would feel safer, and from there I would drive her wherever. Still, this plan has a bit of creep factor to it, plus she lives with her guardian, who might not approve of the whole female-travelling-far-away-to-meet-a-total-stranger thing. Like #1, this would not be an ideal long-term solution — how will she feel if SHE has to do all the hard work? Never mind that it’s hardly a romantic setup.
3) I could just tell her it’s not going to work out after all, for the reasons I explained here. It’s possible that she might feel led on, especially because I contacted her in the first place.
What do you think would be the best course of action?