I met a girl who lives about an hour away on this dating site. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date Friday and she said she might be interested. The problem is, I don’t have a car on campus. Furthermore, I’m a bit of an introvert who doesn’t really become super best buddies forever with people (not that I don’t have friends), so there are few stellar candidates for asking to borrow a car.
I’ve given this some thought, and I think I have some combination of these three options:
1) I could just ask one of my friends anyway, even though I don’t talk to them too often Again, we’re still friends — just not talk-every-day kind of friends. If I do this, it’s possible that they might feel used. Also, this is hardly a long-term solution if I plan to go on regular dates with this girl, unless I make some agreement about recompensation, etc. And what about the insurance?
2) I could just very politely explain the situation to the girl and ask her to come up here. I would offer to meet her in a public place so she would feel safer, and from there I would drive her wherever. Still, this plan has a bit of creep factor to it, plus she lives with her guardian, who might not approve of the whole female-travelling-far-away-to-meet-a-total-stranger thing. Like #1, this would not be an ideal long-term solution — how will she feel if SHE has to do all the hard work? Never mind that it’s hardly a romantic setup.
3) I could just tell her it’s not going to work out after all, for the reasons I explained here. It’s possible that she might feel led on, especially because I contacted her in the first place.
What do you think would be the best course of action?
How about option 4.) tell her about your situation and offer to meet her half way in a public setting. If her guardian has a problem with this, then they’d probably also be uncomfortable with her getting into a strangers car in the first place.
Hope this helps