14 responses to “can someone please help me find a military man to marry?”

  1. bigtalltom

    you’re going to choose the profession of the man you marry based on some stupid movie? WOW.

    hang out in bars around military bases.

  2. in the city of blinding lights

    i know a really hot, smart, funny and sweet military man but i kinda want to keep him for myself. he’s my beau, sorry.
    but on a more serious note, it seems a bit disconcerting that you want to marry a military man based SOLELY on the reasons listed above. if you insist on going through with this bright idea, try online dating sites and enter your preference.
    also, try hanging out around military bases (bars and other social activities)
    good luck to you!

  3. lconnor65

    Tell your brother once he joins to hook you up with his friends. Nice to see you did research for how it will make your life better. Pretty pathetic a movie is running your life. No military man will touch you they will smell that you are after their benefits.

    Why not just join yourself then you don’t need a man.

  4. americangal1981

    Im a little confused. Why cant you find someone on your own? You want to find a military man so you can reap the benefits of their lifestyle? You do realize the reason they get those benefits is because their pay is garbage. My husband (when actually home!) works 16-18 hour shifts..DAILY..which equals out to about $3.3333333 an hour. He brings home (after taxes) $1600 a month. That is not enough to support a family which is why the military gives you housing or housing allowance, free health insurance (you pay for dental). No one would be able to afford it. Our husbands are gone for months and sometimes years at a time.
    Just because you watch Army Wives does not mean you can handle the lifestyle. I say go out and meet someone, if they are party of the military so be it but to seek out a man just because of his benefits is ridiculous.

    This is not meant to be a nasty answer by any means and I wish you the best of luck but being a military spouse isnt as great as you may think. Try explaining to toddlers where their father is or explain to your child that their father is never coming home…it happens daily.

  5. Robert W

    so what happens in 2 years when your army husband gets out of the army?? my daughter married a marine who was in the first iraq war! 2 years later he was out an living on welfare for the next 10 years!! working wasn’t what he wanted to do??

  6. littlelady007

    Are you SERIOUS?? Ok let me take the blinders off dear. Stick with me on this one – 98% of your military guys are DOGS…DAWGS for some of those more die hard. Very very few are truly monogamous, hence the ditty “What goes TDY stays TDY”. And most do not even really look st it as cheating, as they are TDY. TDY means temporary duty yonder. As in any time they are away from home.

    Ok all you out there who just sat up and said HELL NO NOT ME…what about your buddy, your commander, and don’t try to lie. Been in 16 years, been through 9 MSCs, and I will tell you right now – I would NEVER date a military man. Sleep with if I am single? sure! marry? HELL NO.

    As far as the children are concerned, realize most military dependants do not see thier military parent for more than a few months at a time, if then. There will be mandatory solo tours thorughout the career, schools, and all TDY’s are pretty much solo.

    You will be alone for most of your marriage.

  7. Steven

    you’re stupid

  8. Melissa

    “all you people who responded to my other post saying i am a lady only looking to marry for benefits,you are so wrong.you obviously cannnot read correctly,that isnt all that i said in my original post!”

    I’m not seeing anything aside from you talking about the benefits YOU will get and the places YOU will get to go on HIS pay. I see absolutely NOTHING about what you look for in him as a person, simply what you’re looking for out of his benefits and his wallet.

    Just because you watch Army Wives doesn’t mean you know ANYTHING about how hard it is to deal when your man is shipped off overseas. You don’t get to follow him around like a little obedient puppy. When they deploy him, YOU don’t get to go. You get to stay behind and miss him every minute of the day and wonder when you’ll get your next letter or your next call. Most of the time, he won’t even be able to tell you when he’ll be back… and sometimes when he leaves, you will only have a few days notice. You may not see him for half a year or a full year. Do you honestly think that watching a glorified TV show gives you any sense of whether you can handle it or not?

    How about you look for a man that fits your personality and that you can fall in love with and not abuse our poor military men because you want free health insurance and you want to see the world. They have enough things to worry about as it is without tag chasers like you.

  9. Deidre

    First, I don’t mean to be rude. As an Air Force Brat who has lived the life, it’s not as easy and glamorous as you may think. It’s hard being seperated from you loved one, who depending on their rate, may or may not be in danger. You worry for them and their safety. If you have kids with this person, how will you tell them their father won’t be coming home? Some branches don’t have a long deployment time others won’t come home for almost a year. Sometimes you will go the entire deployment without hearing from them. Can you handle this? Some of these things my mother had to deal with while raising two small children who needed constant attention while she had to perform the duties of a military wife. Yes, you will have duties. Military wives don’t just sit there and enjoy the benefits. When he gets orders, so do you. Whne it’s time to move, you should be packed prior to having orders to do so.
    Second, from the way you worded your post, it sounds like you are after the benefits. Even if that is not your intent. Being a military wife is not easy by any means and would be hard for me even though I have some experience as a military brat. It’s one thing to be a child and live it but to be a wife who has to man the battle stations is different. The tv shows only show a part of this and mostly for entertainment not to show what it is really like. It takes a strong woman to love and live with a military man. You don’t just marry the man, you mary the military as well. What you and your children do is a reflection upon him and can cost him dearly ( as in his job, stripes, promotions, pay and being put on restriction to name a few).
    I’m not trying to discourage you in this, if this is what you truly want, fine. I just want to make sure you are informed before you or the soldier get hurt. Talk to some military wives whose husbands are on deployment first and see if this is something you can handle.
    I wish you luck.

  10. trevlilharrison

    Oh hun life as a military wife is not always great there are so many unbelievable hard time such as deployments, Your lonely- you have to take care of everything yourself and never get a break. Trust me when I say this it is not as easy or as glamourous as the movies show it. Don’t get me wrong there are some really great things that go along with it also.

  11. Neffertiti L

    How about you join the military, then you will be surrounded by military men to choose. After you choose your one, marry him and finish your time be a stay at home mom and live off of him.

  12. just me

    I read it last time and this time, and the only things that don’t have to deal with benefits is that your basing this fantasy of yours on a movie and that you think they look hot in uniform. Like i said before, i am military and so is my husband, it is not easy. And like one of the others said what are you going to do if he decides the military is not for him after 4 years? you won’t get those benefits anymore. oh and a side note you don’t get base housing for free they take alot of money out of BAH for those houses on base, after all the other bills car, insurance, phone, groceries and so on there is not much left for fun time spending money.

  13. Stephen

    Post your pic. I’m a single naval officer who is strangely attracted to crazy women.

    NOTE: I think you might be crazy enough to think I’m serious about marrying you…I’m not. But if I happen to meet you in real life, who knows? Just be sure not to mention this post.

  14. cards088

    Bahahaha…this is hilarious!! Speaking from a current Active Military Service Member…are you Hott?? Send me your picture!! Haha…just playing…but just hang around a military base. The guy to girl relationship is ridiculous. I remember when I lived on base we would be all over and of the girls that showed up. But seriously, marry for love, not benefits. I know you said you weren’t, but it sure sounds like you are.

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