We met about 13 months ago. Last year she took 6 trips without me. All of them involved travel out of state and all of them she could have found a way to include me along but she didn’t. With her trip to Cleveland to see a single girlfriend, I offered to come along and we could have gotten a hotel room nearby. She refused and flew off to see her girlfriend and stayed with her for a week.
Another trip she was invited to a wedding in Ireland. She said that she made those plans over a year ago and I couldn’t be added to the guest list. Later on, she brought another single girlfriend along with her to Ireland and she attended most, if not all, of the wedding events.
Her vacation trips last year
Florida, January 2010, 2 weeks
Mexico, March 2010,1 week
Cleveland, June 2010, 1 week
Maine, July 2010, 1 week
Disneyland, August 2010, 1 week
Ireland, September 2010, 2 weeks
She works for a bank that is under rounds of layoffs. Several people that she worked with were let go.
At the end of the year, her house was hit by a tree. The contractors recommended that the roof be replaced. Her insurance company only paid for roof damage, not roof replacement, and hit her with a high deductible. She was also surcharged for the claim for her coverage this year and that matter is still being disputed.
After she was figuring out the money involved in her travels last year, she told me that she would be traveling less this year. However, last month another one of her single girlfriends “invited” her to join her on a spa vacation in Florida. The trip will cost her over a thousand dollars. Now her words have been changed to “fewer trips this year” and “honey I haven’t been away since September of last year.”
I fear that the same pattern of frivilous travel will be starting all over again.
I am looking for a women who is not foolish with her money. She works but seems to spend more than she makes and then puts it all on plastic.
My aunt and mother think I should date another woman. They see my GF as a liability.
seems shes messing around
Some women buy expensive purses, others obsess over designer clothes and shoes. Your girlfriend blows all her money (even money she doesn’t have) on trips. If you want a woman who isn’t foolish with her money, you probably need to look elsewhere.
I’m not concerned about her not inviting you so much as I am about her habit/obsession. I love my husband and love traveling with him, but if I had a single friend who wanted me to travel with her, I’d be tempted to go without him.
shes a free agent and can travel and spend as much as she desires.
with no input from you and your mother and grandmother.
she values her independence
and freedom.
she does not want you traveling with her, there are too many men around she could meet.
I’m gonna leave this one in your ball park, buddy.
You sound a bit like a whiner in this long, drawn out question. I travel a lot and there is no room for a whiner in traveling. My last flight to Dublin on USAir had a defective plane and we had to turn back around to Philadelphia, two hours out over the Atlantic. A nightmare. It seemed to me that most of the complainers were the men on the flight. Stop whining and you may be more appealing as a travel companion. By the way, USAir didn’t sufficiently compensate for their nightmare.